Mirror Technique for confidence and self love

Talking to yourself in the mirror is the foundation of the mirror technique – a confidence building exercise that many successful people use.

Look into your eyes often. Express the growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once.

1. Every day I get more and more confident in myself and my abilities.
2. I am beautiful
3. I accept myself for who I am.
4. I completely trust myself
5. I am confident in what life has planned for me.
6. I like what I see in the mirror.
7. I have control over my mind and my life.
8. I’m good at many things.
9. I’m outgoing and communicative.
10. Each day it gets easier for me to do things with confidence.
11. I have the knowledge and competence to do what I want with my life and achieve a lot.
12. I’m proud of who I am.
13. I’m doing great things with my life.
14. People feel good around me, they want to be in my company.
15. My voice sounds confident.
16. I am easy going and fun.
17. I radiate confidence.
18. Whatever I want, I can get it.
19. I don’t feel intimidated by other people.
20. Being the best I can be is a top priority for me.

Talking to yourself makes your brain work more efficiently.

Talking out loud to yourself helps you only when you know what you need.

Talking to yourself helps you organize your thoughts.

Talking to yourself helps you achieve your goals.

Every time when you say something out loud, you engage your emotions. One of the most powerful ingredients to boost your memory.

Energizing and motivating yourself – you can definitely psych yourself up with: “Come on!” “Let’s go!” “You can do this!”. Martial artists have been using screams for hundreds of years to give them some extra energy. I’m pretty sure there is a good reason for that.

Playing devil’s advocate – find the weaknesses in your argumentation. Try to debunk your own theories. Saying your options out loud and elaborating on the pros and cons can help bring the right choice to light, and you might be surprised at the unexpected direction your thoughts take when they’re audible.

Blowing off steam – don’t keep it all inside. If your colleague is a massive w*nker, say it out loud and berate him. Scientists actually found out that swearing can alleviate pain and decrease stress.

Cheering yourself up – sometimes it just happens that others don’t appreciate you enough. So what? You can give yourself a pat on the back for being a great human being!

Improve attention span and concentration. Indeed, many people with ADD talk to themselves to help bring a tangle of thoughts into focus. Notice how often you see athletes muttering under their breath before an event; they’re calming themselves down and pumping themselves up. It works.

Daily routine.

Morning Routine Habits.

Eat a breakfast heavy in fat and protein. It acts as a continuous fuel source for your will power. Ex: steak or omlette.

Plunge yourself into cold water every single morning. A cold shower helps get you out of your comfort zone. It also improves your mood. You can do something right after the shower, a new habit or activity.

To form habits you have to do them every day.

Do creative work. No strict rules to follow. You only have a general guideline. Come up with different ways and adjust your strategy to grow. Learn to improve yourself or something in your life using different strategies.

You'll get more done if you start in the morning, when your willpower is at it's highest.




My Daily Routine.
*To be Continued*

How to have a better relationship.

About Long Distance Relationships 
If it survives the distance, it can go the distance.

1. Talk about how to talk. How you generally want to talk, what times and for how long. 
2. Prioritize talking with each other consistently, but not too much. 
3. Learn to ask good questions and listen well. Talking is all you have. Ask questions that make them think and help you understand them better.
4. You should be able to talk about anything. If you have something serious to talk about, call each other.
5. Read a book at the same time or watch a movie and then discuss them. 
6. Write letters. 
7. Discuss how you deal with pressure, talk about how you usually talk/react when stressed. 
8. Learn some basic conflict management strategies and discuss them with your partner before you find yourself mid-fight. Take a deep breath or a 20 minutes break. 
9. Learn to recognize and control you emotions.
10. Support him, be strong for both of you. 
11. Take his perspective. 
12. Build a love map. Gather information about him, his interests, stories, what you love and admire about him. 
13. Make a plan for when you are lonely or sad. 
14. Discuss the ground rules of the relationship.
15. Figure out what works for you when it comes to coping with distance. 
16. Have some interests outside of the relationship, also focus on other important relationships.
17. When you visit, don't just sit on a couch. 
18. Treat yourself gently after farewells.
19. If done right, this time apart can actually be helpful to your relationship. It is giving you a chance to live your own life, while still being in love. Use this time to work on yourself professionally, physically and mentally. With your schedule freed up from date nights, plan fun things to do with your family and friends because once you finally get to see your love, chances are you two will be spending a surplus of time with one another.

How to simplify a complicated relationship 

Why is your relationship complicated in the first place?

Stop being dramatic. – Start spending less time gossiping about problems and more time helping yourself and others solve them. Stay out of people’s needless drama and don’t create your own.

Stop being inefficient simply because you’ve always done it that way. – Start opening your mind to making positive changes. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Many times we live with unplanned, complex systems in our lives simply because we haven’t given them much thought. Instead, streamline your life by finding better ways of handling common tasks. Focus on one system at a time (your cleaning system, your errands system, your paperwork system, your email system, etc.) and try to make it simplified, efficient, and logical. Then, once you have it perfected, stick to it.

Stop waiting for things to be perfect. – Start thinking of how many things don’t get done in this world simply because people are waiting for the perfect time, place and circumstance. If you’re waiting for the perfect conditions, ideas or plans to get started, you’ll never achieve anything. A good idea without action is nothing at all. Keep it simple and just start. Focus on the next positive step forward.

Stop giving what you don’t want to receive. – Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple

Have you ever thought to yourself “I love him, but…”? If there is a but, you instantly need complicated relationship advice. If you love someone and everything is going alright, there are no buts. What is the complication? Does he have a bad temper? He does things you can’t accept? Here is the thing: you have to set rules. Keep in mind that men are willing to go lengths you allow them to. Once you tell them what rules they have to follow, they will do so (of they love you too).

Maybe you are the one making it complicated. Regardless of what the problem might be, the best thing you could do is to talk about it. To make sure that this will be efficient, you should make it an appointment. Set a time that works for the both of you and that you know you will use to discuss this matter only. There might be a simple solution you never thought about, you just have to raise the issue. When discussing the matter, make sure not to blame each other and try to stay objective. Don’t bring up past mistakes and don’t start accusing him. This way you will be able to truly communicate and you will find the thing that isn’t working in your relationship or that you think isn’t working.

You have to look at this person you love and be willing to see their faults and love them regardless. If you aren't able to see them as an imperfect individual, the first time they hurt your feelings, forget an anniversary gift or load the dishwasher the wrong way, it's going to break your heart.

If you find that your dear partner has done something that annoys you or defies your expectations, tell them! No need to be aggressive or confrontational, just let them know, and be ready to compromise.

Just go with the flow in your relationship. Do what you feel like doing, in a positive way.

So much of the complication in relationships comes from within ourselves. You have thoughts and frustrations that you keep inside, maybe to avoid complicating your relationship with conflict (oh, sweet irony), until one day it all comes pouring out onto your unsuspecting partner.

Don't hold on to the past. If he/ she has done something before and now does it again, don't think about how many times he has done it, just try to understand why he did in this moment, right now, ask him, talk about it, as calmly and positive as you can.

If you find yourself having to rebuild trust, you may lament that your relationship has now become complicated, but abiding by the rules about communication and letting go will help return some simplicity.

Consider your partner's feelings, and take into account their desires. Make a genuine effort to put them first as often as you can. Surprise them with a gift, text them from work, or do their least favorite chore without prompting.

Don’t place unrealistic expectations on your partner (or yourself).  Getting married or being in any serious relationship doesn’t mean you sign away your humanity.  Regardless of your gender, you will inevitably still be attracted to other people, & that doesn’t lessen the love you feel for your partner.  It’s just part of being a human being.  Just be cognizant of it & know your limits.  Don’t be one of those childish people who expects their partner to suddenly think they are the only sexy person on planet Earth.  That just screams of insecurity.  Just let out all of your sexual energy on each other & you’ll be just fine.

Never stop getting to know your partner.  After you’ve been together a long time, it’s so easy to think you’ve already figured someone out & to stop putting in the time to really understand each other because you think you already know it all.  Trust me, I know.  My husband & I had been together almost a decade by the time we got married.  But I’m still pleasantly surprised to find out that we don’t know everything about each other.  There is always more to learn & that’s part of what makes a relationship fun.  As an addendum, if your relationship is right, marriage shouldn’t change things very much because the relationship was already there.

Don’t feel the need to spend every single second together.  A truly great relationship will give you the confidence to be alone sometimes.  Or to be apart & know that things are still going to be ok.  If your partner wants a day or two to spend with their friends or family without you, let them.  Couples who really trust each other don’t feel the need to be together 24/7.  You were a person before you met your partner & you’re still your own person even with them.  Don’t forget that.

Remember that hurt people, hurt people. - To develop the attitude of tenderhearted mercy means to actively and intentionally feel within us the pain and suffering of others. Relationships get complicated when we play defense only and receive everything as a personal attack against us, rather than someone lashing out from a place of pain.


Things you can do when you are apart:

• Watch movies or TV shows simultaneously together!
• Ask questions about each other. 
• Play a game together
• Truth or dare
• Learn together. Ex: psychology or self development. 
• Karaoke
• Read a book together.
• Plan your next visit
• Play phone games: ABC Game, 21 Questions, 3 word story game, name that tune, 2 truths 1 lie. 
• Write what you loved about your relationship this week/ month, what went well and what not. Do this every now and then. 
• Record a virtual tour of your neighborhood!
• Prank them
• Create a font from your own handwriting:  http://www.yourfonts.com/ 
• Send “Open When” letters - Write some encouraging  notes for when the other may be feeling sad or lonely  or stressed. This is the perfect pick-me-up when you  guys aren’t together.
• Take an online quiz and discuss your results
• Share a journal - Go back and forth and write  different entries. Read what the other one wrote and  either respond or expand to it. One day, this journal  will make for amazing memories.
• Create a digital photo album together - A lot of sites at digital photo albums for you to click and drop photos into. Work on one together, and then order a hardcopy once it’s complete.
• Play on Pinterest - Set up a joint Pinterest account  and create boards like “future house”, “vacations”,  “wedding ideas”. You can visualize what the other  person’s dreams are for your relationship.
• Capture Your Lives On Camera - If you don't have a great deal of time to spend talking to each other,  take photos of the things you are doing apart and send  them to each other. When my husband went rafting for a  weekend with his friends, he sent me several photos  every day of his shenanigans. I, on the other hand,  made his mouth water by sending him pictures of all  the tasty meals and desserts I was making.
• Create A Competitive Element - Sometimes just talking,  talking, talking can get a bit stale. When you are  together you can do all sorts of fun things but being  apart means most interactions begin and end with  talking. We had a running words with friends  competition the entire time we were apart, so when we  weren't feeling particularly chatty, we'd battle it  out on the scrabble board.
• Have an origami competition - This requires nothing  but a piece of paper cut into a square and a webcam or  phone with a camera to compare final products. When my  boyfriend and I tried it, we chose to make paper  cranes. We followed the same set of directions online  and took our time to try to make the better crane. My  boyfriend got points for being much faster, but I won  anyway since his crane looked like a pile of mush.
• Blind drawing challenge - This is a challenge designed  to see how well you can communicate with one another.  Do an image search online for some abstract geometric  shapes and patterns. (Or search for tangrams shapes.)  Something that could work well is an image of two  slanted rectangles intersected by an arrow shape, all  inside of a circle. The partner who finds the image  online has one minute to give instructions to the  other, describing exactly how to draw the shapes. The  second partner must draw silently and cannot ask for  clarification. After the minute is up, compare the  drawing to the actual image and see how well (or  terribly) you did.
• Websites:  http://www.ldrmagazine.com/blog/2014/06/15/130- things-to-do-together-online-real-time/

Things you can do when you are together:

*To be continued*

It works. The famous little red book that makes your dreams come true.

Personal note: This is a personal summary of the book "It works.  The famous little red book that makes your dreams come true". This summary includes small ideas out of the original book with some of my own words or "translations" added to them.


If wishes were horses, beggars would ride - cause of failure of success. 

First you have to know what you want and to know it's no easy task. You have to decide definitely upon the things or conditions you desire.  You have to know what you need in order to get what you want. The subjective mind is omnipotent.

You must be earnest about what you want.  If you are earnest about changing your present condition, here is a  concise, definite, result plan, with rules, explanations and suggestions.

Removing from your list of items which at first you thought you wanted, is another sure indication of progress.

It is almost impossible to make any satisfactory progress when  surrounded by skeptics. Therefore, choose your friends carefully and  associate with people who now have some of the things you really want,  but do not discuss your method of accomplishment with them.

A natural and ancient enemy will no doubt appear when you get your  first taste of accomplishment. This enemy is Discredit, in form of such  thoughts as: It can't be possible, it just happened to be. What a  remarkable coincidence! When that happens give thanks and assert credit to you Omnipotent Power for the accomplishment.

Caution. It is possible to want and obtain things that will make you miserable. You can have what you want but you must take all that goes with it.

Accomplish the lesser things first. Then take the next step, and when that is accomplished, you will seek the higher and really important objectives in life. One thing on your list will be to help others as you have been helped.

Great is the reward to those who help and give without the thought of self, as it is impossible to be unselfish without gain.

Conclusion.
With this plan presented to you now, you can remain as you are or have anything you want.

Read this over and over again, and then again. 

Joseph Goldstein Retreats about Fear and Craving

Achieved is the end of craving - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n2oC5nvAZiA&feature=youtu.be

The end of craving is a taste of freedom. 

Realized is the unconditioned. Achieved is the end of craving. 

Can we even imagine a mind that is free of craving, free of desire? 

The end of craving is not far of or special. The practice of the end of craving should be made for the moment, in the moment, right now. Practice for short moments many times. 

Experiment: The next time a desire should come upon you, see if you can recognize that the desire is present, that there's a wanting in your mind. 

What does it feel like when the mind is filled with desire/ wanting? And watch how it feels when you are free of wanting. 

Craving means thirst, the fear of unsatisfied longing. It is a compelling force. It's not superficial and it can consume you. 

Craving for: power, success, drugs, alcohol. Wanting things you don't even know what they are. Or "a cup of tea would be nice".

Wanting to want: you open a catalog and go through pages waiting for something to want. 

We get lost in the fantasy of the next project we want to do, the next vacation. This is a dead end and it's not going anywhere. We expect to get something and we fear that we won't. We are trying to control how the experience unfolds. 

Craving is temporary, it doesn't deliver on its promise of happiness. "If we go for this it's gonna make us happy". 

Craving of becoming, when we imagine ourselves in a future situation. 

Don't crave past experiences, don't bind yourself to future ones. Take notice when that happens. 

Let go of the present, it can become a fixation. Don't crave the present.

Liberation doesn't come from an experience we expect/ crave, it's about letting go. We usually do what we do in order for some experience to happen. You achieve freedom with the end of craving. With this, we don't practice wanting something new. 

All our activities are based on a mistaken sense of self. Something that's not there in the first place. 

How do we free our minds from craving just in this moment? Whatever is not yours, abandon it, let it go: "Not I, not mine, not myself". Ex: material objects, consciousness, feelings, etc. 

PERSONAL SUMMARY - Craving:  You can end craving through practice. Practice seeing when you feel like wanting something, as many times as you can. Notice when you live in the past or the future, and don't get caught up in the idea of always being present. Practice for short moments many times. Don't expect to get something and don't try to control your experience. Don't live behind of the image of yourself, this image itself is a mistake and doesn't exist. Whatever is not yours, abandon it, don't be subjectively/ personally attached to it, because nothing is actually yours. Do what you can for today, for this moment, without thinking about the results you will get in the future. 

Working with fear -  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_8LcKlmSqUs&feature=youtu.be

We experience fear when we are at the end of our comfort zone. 

Imagine a mind without edges or limitations. 

You endure pain rather than opening to it. 

We build up in our minds what the pain is gonna become "in one hour" and then we build up on that. Fear of anticipated discomfort/ pain limits you. 

"I'll take this second piece of toast just in case i'm hungry".

Don't be caught up or identified with the fear. 

We have so many distractions that we can't feel what we carry around. 

Don't just let fear go away, don't just let it happen, practice in order for it to happen. 

The healing power of awareness. 

How much do we do so we don't feel lonely or bored? 

Whatever has the nature to arise will also pass away. The cause of death is birth. 

We can know it is there (fear) and still push it away, still resist. 

Accept fear, it's ok. Imagine being with a frightened child, You wouldn't be denying it, you would be caring with the kid. 

Fear is just a mindstate, that's all it is.

We reteach ourselves lovelyness until it flowers from within with self blessing. 

PERSONAL SUMMARY - Fear:  Fear is something that appears at the end of our comfort zone. It is ok to be afraid, accept fear, embrace it, don't endure it, be open towards fear, it is normal to be afraid and it is a part of our human experience. Fear is just a mindstate, fixed in your mind, blinding you, that keeps you from looking around. For one moment, just stop, open your eyes, and look at the here and now, look at what is around you. There is no danger, nothing to be afraid of, no past experience or future expectations, it's just you and what you see around you. If you are afraid, don't identify with fear, don't act through fear, don't be fear. Accept it, look around and take a deep breath. Each time when you feel afraid, lonely, bored, or when you are looking for second options just to be sure, just remember, this danger you are afraid of, isn't a thing of the present, nor will it exist in the future.  

Jogging for Beginners, Quick Home Exercises and Breathing exercises.

*Read the blog description first*

I. The first step you need to take into account are stretching and breathing exercises. For this, a friend recommended me two of Elliott Hulse's videos, 30 seconds  to 1 minute for each exercise:
1.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zD-3j2g9w9U
2.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTaFWFCqBzg&feature=youtu.be



II. 7 minute exercises

The 12 exercises are most effective if you carry them out the in correct order with a 10 second break between each. The exercises should be performed in rapid succession, allowing 30 seconds for each.

However the experts say that you must be in pain when performing the regime in order to benefit.

Quick Morning Workout: http://www.shape.com/fitness/workouts/quick-start-morning-workout

III.  Here's a short list of what you should do to start jogging:

1.  Comfortable clothing and shoes. Preferably, spend as much time barefoot as possible.

2. Don't jog on a full stomach. Hydrate yourself, drink lots of water. A banana before jogging should give you the right nutrients.

3.  Warm up, no stretches! Just walk fast before jogging, and then start to jog.

4. Breathe deeply and evenly. Avoid shallow and quick breaths.

5. Avoid hitting the ground heel first. This is bad for your knee. Instead, try to hit the ground with the flat of your foot.

5. Bend your arms at a 90 degree angle. Keep them at your side.

6. Look in front of you, don't look down.

7. Cool down. Jog slowly then walk for a few minutes before stopping. Finish with some stretches.

8. Jog 30-45 minutes in the morning for a boost of energy through the day. Jogging in the evening gives you more time and flexibility, but makes you less tired for your bed time.

9. Game App: "Zombies, Run!".

10. Sprinting burns more calories than jogging: sprint for 30 seconds, walk fast for 1 minute. Ignore the fact that you can run more and just stop, don't exhaust your body.

Useful blog post: https://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/running-properly/

Limba si literatura romana (programa/ materie pentru bacalaureat)

Downloadeaza toata materia [aici]. ~In proces de completare~

1. Umanismul si cronicarii (Grigore Ureche, Miron Costin, Ion Neculce) - Download

2. Romantismul - Download

3. Iluminismul si Tiganiada de Ion Budai deleanu - Download

4. Dacia Literara - Download

5. Revedere de Mihai Eminescu - Download

6. Nuvela istorica: Alexandru Lapusneanu de Costache Negruzii - Download

7. Luceafarul de Mihai Eminescu - Download

8. Oda in metru antic de Mihai Eminescu - Download

9. Realismul - Download

10. Moara cu noroc de Ioan Slavici - Download

11. Povestea lui Harap-Alb de Ion Creanga - Download

12. Junimea si Titu Maiorescu - Download

13. Simbolismul - Download

14. O scrisoare pierduta de Ion Luca Caragiale si Comedia - Download

15. Plumb de George Bacovia  - Download (+Universul liric al lui Bacovia - Download)

16. Lacustra de George Bacovia - Download

17. La hanul lui Manjoala - Download

18. Roman subiectiv si obiectiv - Download

19.  Naratologia 

20. Baltagul de Mihail Sadoveanu - Download

21. Ion de Liviu Rebreanu - Download

22. Enigma Otiliei de George Calinescu - Download

23. Ultima noapte de dragoste intaia noapte de razboi de Camil Petrescu - Download

24. Modernismul - Download

25. Mesterul Manole de Lucian Blaga - Download

26. Prelungiri ale clasicismului si romantismului - Download (+Octavian Goga)

27. Testament de Tudor Arghezi - Download

28. Din ceas dedus de Ion Barbu - Download 

29. Traditionalismul - Download

30. Eu nu strivesc corola de minuni a lumii de Lucian Blaga - Download

31. In gradina Ghetesmani de Vasile Voiculescu - Download

32. Morometii de Marin Preda - Download

33. Avangardismul romanesc - Download

34. In dulcele stil clasic de Nichita Stanescu - Download

35. Neomodernismul - Download

36. Iona de Marin Sorescu - Download

37. Poveste de Marin Sorescu - Download

38. Postmodernismul - Download

39. Ciocnirea de Mircea Cartarescu - Download

40. Cel mai iubit dintre pamanteni de Marin Preda - Download

41. Zmeura de campie de Mircea Nedelciu - Download